- August 20, 2014
- Liz Green
If you're looking for the perfect housekeeper and have just read somewhere that Virgo women are masters (or mistresses) of the art, you should probably bestow your insult on some other sign. The main gift of the Virgo woman is her intelligence, not her orderliness; and when you find the compulsive housebound type who dusts three times a day then you're courting trouble because you've got yourself a Virgo who's fallen into the shadow side of the sign. And all that good housekeeping will pale into insignificance beside the shrewishness which goes with it. This isn't, we repeat, what Virgo is about. As a by-product it can be a nice bonus, and there are plenty of Virgo women who take an interest in their homes and like an orderly environment. But Virgo as it expresses itself through the feminine psyche seems to be about things like good taste, and subtlety, and understanding, and a keen wit about people and life.
There are catches, of course. The self-contained figure of myth is very much in evidence in the Virgo woman, and it's often difficult for Virgo to really be 'married' in any deep sense of the word. There's a quality about the Virgo woman which is psychologically untouchable, and if you try to invade it you get the same reaction as if you tried physical rape. Virgo women aren't usually the clinging, helpless type. More often they're amazons who show a frightening degree of capability and efficiency, either on a physical level or a mental one - or even sometimes both. Good points for Women's Lib, but bad points if you want to be the sun around which a happily reflecting moon orbits.
For one thing, Virgo women have opinions. Mercury's connection with the sign seems to come out in a need to communicate, to talk, sometimes to simply gossip and chat. Many Virgo women talk endlessly. Sometimes it can make you cover your ears and begin screaming, just to make the sound stop. It may not be the traditional Virgo criticism, either. It may be all about the latest book she read, or the film she saw, or the person she's lately been taking apart and analyzing psychologically. Virgos love to talk about other people, in great detail. So if you're after the beautiful, silent type, forget it. Virgo women also have a sometimes admirable, sometimes infuriating propensity to question your word and your knowledge, too. Tell her something and she'll ask the source, complete with footnotes. Virgo tends to believe not to believe anybody else until the definitive reference work becomes available. It's hard to be more knowledgeable than a Virgo, because they won't allow it. It's got a good and bad side. It does wonders for your intellectual scope, and horrors for your ego.
Many Virgo women come close to the figure of the Earth Mother, because the peculiar sensitivity of the sign expresses itself through a love of nature and a healing and skillful touch with all crafts. It seems to be a typical Virgo skill to have a 'knack' with handicrafts of all kinds. The arts for their own sake rarely attract Virgo, because things must be useful to be relevant. But the Virgo woman displays immense skill at gardening, and craftsmanship in many areas. And the quality of needing to be needed which attracts so many Virgos into the helping professions, from nursing to dieticians to psychologists and counselors, is very much an aspect of the Great Mother archetype which is connected with the sign.
The thing is, you often have to find it behind the high-strung nervous system, the edginess, the need for solitude, the apparent coolness and detachment. It's hard for a Virgo woman to be spontaneous. Often she can only show love and affection by doing physical things for you. The situation applies here as to the Virgo male: emotion and passion are disturbing and frightening, and can only be expressed in an atmosphere of complete trust. Break that trust and you'll get the sarcastic, cutting edge of the Virgo tongue, which can be really vicious because she's been observing with minute care all the weaknesses and foibles which you didn't think anybody noticed. Virgo women have a disconcerting habit of noticing the carefully hidden frayed cuff, the razor nick, the scuffed shoe, the word-slip, the nervous twitch you thought you were controlling. They observe minute things because for Virgo the vast spectrum of life is best reflected in the small. For the Virgo woman, the great art is the art of the small.
It may be appropriate to remind you again of those Virgos who are anything but tight-lipped spinstership shrews: the Greta Garbos and Sophia Lorens and Jacqueline Bissetts of the world. But you can see a thread which runs through these women as well as every other Virgo woman, from Lauren Bacall (another Virgo) to Twiggy. Notice the attention given to skill. Whatever Virgo does, it does well, and Virgo women are no exception. These are skilled actresses, with polish and impeccable performance. Whether cooking or sculpting or teaching or whatever, Virgo women take pride in their skill. Appreciate it and you'll earn her warmth. Ignore it or undervalue it, and you've made a ghastly mistake. And if you're one of those men who doesn't think it's appropriate for a woman to be skilled in anything except pleasing a man, you're courting real trouble with a Virgo woman. Curiously, Virgo needs lots of respect - a need which isn't always evident in the other signs, which are less likely to identify with their skills. Also notice the quality of cool self-containment about these women.
Married or not, they all radiate some mysterious aloofness which is not so much a 'keep out' sign as a 'welcome, but respect my separateness'. It's evident even in the heat of sexual passion or intense emotion with Virgo. Self-contained. If you can learn to deal with the shadowy side, the know-it-all quality, the occasional fits of ordering and tidying either the environment or you, then you can reach the other side of Virgo. Isn't it nice to be able to appreciate someone who is capable of being her own person? While all women, and all people, ultimately strive for this, Virgo makes a career and sometimes an art of it. Virgo won't adore you blindly. She'll more likely love you for your flaws and imperfections, because she's a realist and also it makes her feel needed. And it can either terrify a man into running eighty miles an hour in the opposite direction, or it can be a wonderful cooling bath to actually be able to be yourself. But then, it depends on the sort of man you are, doesn't it?
Source Astrology for Lovers